Counteracting Drama with 3 Simple Roles

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I am very excited about continuing our conversation about drama this week. If you missed my last post, “An Introduction to Drama: The 5 Questions to Defining It,” we are discussing drama to help round out our Ditch the Drama™ workshop, which will next be held at the end of July. In this post we get to answer two very important questions:

  1. What are the roles that breathe life into drama?

  2. What are the roles that bust drama?

I have never been one to “hold for effect,” so let’s dig right in.

1. What are the roles that breathe life into drama?

  • Victim – a person who perceives that someone, or some circumstance, is doing something to them, thus becoming powerless, helpless, or not in control. When a person surrenders to this belief (consciously or unconsciously), they become a victim.

  • Persecutor – a person, condition or situation that is doing something to the victim. The persecutor believes that they are justified and most importantly that they are right. For example, a person could believe that the victim is wrong, incompetent, or powerless and is behaving accordingly.

  • Rescuer – a person, thing or activity that serves to save the day by making the persecutor go away or by numbing the pain associated with being persecuted. For example, a person could be a rescuer if they stand up for the victim. It can also be a substance such as alcohol or drugs, or an activity like kickboxing or fighting.

2. What are the roles that bust drama?

While the roles that create drama seem extreme, and we may consider ourselves innocent of them, the truth is that drama is not just for Drama Queens, we are all participating in it on some level everyday. The trick is being able to recognize the subtle hints that we have fallen into a role and take the necessary steps to shift into one of the following roles:

  • Creator – a person who, instead of playing the role of victim, asks questions like: what do I want, what are my choices? They choose and create their own outcomes and experiences.

  • Challenger – a person, condition or situation that provides an opportunity for learning, growth and development.

  • Coach – a person who facilitates, supports, and champions learning, growth and development.

Knowing these roles helps us identify when we are in a drama creating role and what we can do to navigate to a drama busting role. In the next post we’ll further our analysis to discover how we can use our understandings of drama to gain power over it and even prevent it altogether. It is all part of the march towards our Ditch the Drama™ workshop. I invite you to check back next week and don’t forget to sign up for the workshop; it’s fast approaching.